For established relationships, it will be beneficial to perform a ritual for renewing feelings today, or on a personal date connected to the start of your relationship or a significant milestone (such as a wedding anniversary).

Light two red (or gold) candles on a table. On one candle, write the wife’s name from top to bottom, and on the other, write the husband’s name. Place a bowl of red wine (or red juice if you don’t consume alcohol) between the candles.

😘 While the candles burn, spend time solely with each other. Talk about your relationship, reminisce about how you met, the beginning of your love and family life, what brought you joy back then, and what you wish to carry forward throughout your life together. Enjoy each other’s company, both emotionally and physically.

Once the candles have burned down, drink from the bowl in three turns: first the husband takes a sip, then the wife, then again the husband, followed by the wife, and finally, one last sip each until the bowl is emptied completely. Seal the ritual with a kiss.

❗ If there are leftover candle remnants after the ritual, do not throw them away. Bind them together tightly with a red thread or ribbon and place them alongside your family photos or keepsakes as a protective talisman.

© Elena Shuwany